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Nov 17, 2022

The Most Frequently Asked Question in Heroic Coach

 
In our last +1, we talked about some Ryan Holiday wisdom from his new book Discipline Is Destiny.
 
As you may recall, we brought Cato the Elder, Ben Franklin and Marcus Aurelius to the party to talk about the importance of focusing on all the ways WE can get better rather than worrying about all the ways other people need to improve.
 
Cato told us: “I am prepared to forgive everybody’s mistakes, except my own.”
 
Ben Franklin told us: “Search others for their virtues, thyself for thy vices.”
 
Marcus Aurelius told us to be: Tolerant with others, strict for yourself.”
 
We could add Jesus’ wisdom to the mix. He told us to quit worrying about the speck of dust in your brother’s eye and to focus on the BEAM in yours
 
Same thing.
 
This is a really important Idea.
 
And…
 
It’s funny because as I created that last +1, I thought of what is probably THE most frequently asked question from people going through our Heroic Mastery Series/Coach certification program.
 
It goes something like this…
 
“I’m really into this stuff and I can already feel my life changing as I start to move from Theory to Practice to Mastery. It’s amazing!!”
 
Then they continue with…
 
“But…”
 
Then I often know what’s coming…
 
“The problem is that my [wife/husband/kids/extended family/colleagues/insert someone other than them!] REALLY needs to work on this stuff and…”
 
I laughed as I typed that.
 
And I usually laugh when I start my reply to our Hero-in-training.
 
I typically talk about prescribing medicine for your neighbor, unilaterality and How am I that?” as I encourage them to avoid proselytizing and simply focus on DOING THE WORK—letting our example be the primary lesson rather than the lectures we’re all tempted to give when we’re on fire with our own self-development.
 
Then I tell them about the fact that MY OWN WIFE doesn’t want me to coach her. (HAH!) 
 
(Trust me, Alexandra doesn’t want me to coach her unless she explicitly asks me for the support. After fifteen years, I’m almost getting that fact! nerd face)
 
Now I’ve got another frame to use.
 
Let’s be prepared to forgive everybody’s mistakes, except our own.
 
Let’s search others for their virtues and ourselves for our vices.
 
Let’s be tolerant with others and strict with ourselves.
 
And, let’s notice EVERY TIME we’re tempted to do the opposite.
 
Then use that prompt/trigger/cue as an opportunity to cultivate our reactive discipline—stepping in between the stimulus and our old, habitual response as we choose a better response and practice our philosophy.
 
Not someday.
 
TODAY!!!
 
Trust me. 
 
Your loved ones will thank you. 
 
And, paradoxically at first glance but obvious at the second or third glance: This is the fastest way to actually convince your loved ones that you're on to something and that you have wisdom worth paying attention to. nerd face 
 
Day 1. All in. 
 
LET’S GO!
Nov 16, 2022

Strict with Yourself

 
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again.
 
Ryan Holiday is one of my favorite writers. We’ve featured a bunch of his books including The Obstacle Is the Way, The Daily Stoic, Ego Is the Enemy, and Stillness Is the Key.
 
He’s currently working on “The Stoic Virtue Series” in which he’s creating a new book for each of the cardinal virtues of Stoicism: Courage, Temperance, Justice, and Wisdom.
 
We briefly chatted about the first book in the series: Courage Is Calling.
 
Today we’re going to chat about an Idea from the second book in the series: Discipline Is Destiny.
 
We’re going to talk about an Idea that didn’t make it into the Note. It’s from a chapter called “Tolerant with Others. Strict with Yourself.”
 
Ryan tells us: “’I am prepared to forgive everybody’s mistakes,’ Cato the Elder said, ‘except my own.’ Ben Franklin, many generations later, would put forth an even better rule: ‘Search others for their virtues, thyself for thy vices.’ Or as Marcus Aurelius put it, Tolerant with others, strict for yourself.”
 
That’s Today’s +1.
 
Let’s be tolerant with others—looking for their VIRTUES and forgiving their mistakes.
 
Let’s be strict with ourselves—looking for our vices and getting to work on them. 
 
We have more than enough work to do on ourselves.
 
Let’s do it.
 
TODAY.
Nov 15, 2022

At Least I Hope You Are, Hero!

 
In our last +1, we talked about Abigail Adams and her letter to her son, John Quincy Adams. 
 
As you may recall, she admonished the 12-year-old who would become the sixth U.S. President to LIVE WITH VIRTUE.
 
And, as we discussed, she wisely declared: “These are the times in which a genius would wish to live. It is not in the still calm of life, or the repose of a pacific station, that great characters are formed. The habits of a vigorous mind are formed in contending with difficulties. Great necessities call out great virtues. When a mind is raised, and animated by scenes that engage the heart, then those qualities which would otherwise lay dormant, wake into life and form the character of the hero and the statesman.”
 
As part of that +1, I mentioned the fact that I think she and her family would have been part of our Heroic movement—encouraging their kids to cultivate their virtue while doing the same on our Heroic app.
 
I also mentioned the fact that I think Benjamin Franklin would have either created something similar to our Heroic app to track HIS virtuous targets or joined the cause to help us win our current war between vice and virtue.
 
Then…
 
I typed “Benjamin Franklin” into my Mac’s search thingy to see if I could find a Big Idea from a PhilosophersNote on him and his commitment to virtue.
 
And…
 
I hit the jackpot.
 
Not only did I find a Big Idea featuring Benjamin Franklin and his idiosyncratic awesomeness, I ALSO found a reference to John Adams in the SAME Big Idea.
 
Fantastic!
 
The references were from Alan Cohen’s Spirit Means Business.
 
Franklin and Adams showed up in an Idea about helping us embrace our inner weirdos. nerd face 
 
Alan Cohen tells us: “Being a misfit is not a defect. It may be your key to success. When I hear that a person is well adjusted, I ask, ‘Well adjusted to what?’ Learning how to find your way around a mental institution does not make you sane. Real sanity rests in authenticity. ...
 
Maybe you’re not so weird after all. Maybe your weirdness is your greatest asset. Maybe what you thought was wrong with you is what’s right with you. Just because you are out of the mainstream doesn’t disqualify you from vast achievement. You are in your own stream. World change agents do not apologize for their eccentricities or try to hide them. Idiosyncrasies come with the package. So just get on with your creations and make your contribution regardless of any oddness your personality has picked up along the way. Don’t wait until you are normal before you claim greatness. Normality and genius are rare bedfellows. As Walt Whitman proudly proclaimed, ‘Not a particle or an inch of me is vile . . . I celebrate myself.’”
 
That’s from a chapter in which we learn about some of history’s most awesome weirdos.
 
Get this: Did you know that Benjamin Franklin started each day with an “air bath,” standing naked outside for 30 minutes? Yep. 
 
And, that fellow American hero John Quincy Adams swam nude in the Potomac river at 5 A.M. every morning, even in freezing weather. (Cold plunge for the win! Wim Hof would approve!)
 
Then we have Nikola Tesla and Steve Jobs with their whole array of idiosyncratic behaviors (and genius inventions).
 
Oh! And, let’s not forget about Albert Einstein. 
 
Did you know that he didn’t even speak until he was three and, as an adult, would stop his car, pluck a grasshopper and EAT IT. Yep. That’s normal. face with tears of joy 
 
Then we have YOU. 
 
How’s YOUR weirdness?
 
Alan tells us:
 
The Myth: Being a misfit is a defect you must correct.
The Reality: Your nonconformity is your pathway to fulfillment.
 
And... 
 
So much of that passage is so eminently quotable. 
 
There’s this: “Learning to find your way around a mental institution does not make you sane.” (Hah!) 
 
Plus, this is worth a quick repeat: “Normality and genius are rare bedfellows.”
 
Then we have the whole “Well adjusted to WHAT?” conversation which—as you might be able to guess by this stage—reminds me of Krishnamurti’s wisdom that being well-adjusted to a PROFOUNDLY SICK society is no measure of health.
 
In a world where “normal” is so astonishingly sub-optimal (from a mental, physical and emotional health standpoint), why, my dear friend, should we aspire for “normalcy?
 
Much better to lean into our weirdness and entertain the possibility that, perhaps, “your weirdness is your greatest asset.”
 
Here’s to echoing Whitman’s proclamation as we celebrate every particle and inch of ourselves.
 
Not someday.
 
TODAY. 
 
btw: Whitman also told us that “In the faces of men and women, I see God.”
 
You know what I see and what we encourage our Coaches to see in the faces of men and women? 
 
HEROES.
 
Yes: I’m looking at YOU, Hero!!!
Nov 14, 2022

Abigail Adams and Heroic Mothers Unite

 
Abigail Adams was one of the Heroic Founding Mothers of the United States of America.
 
I’m convinced that she and Benjamin Franklin and their families would be part of our Heroic movement if they were alive today.
 
Why?
 
Because they were intensely passionate about cultivating virtue in their lives and in the lives of their children.
 
And…
 
I’m pretty sure (winking face) they would have preferred to have their kids on the soon-to-be-launched social features for our Heroic training platform cultivating virtue together rather than on Tik Tok watching another absurd 20-second video.
 
What data supports that hypothesis?
 
Glad you asked…
 
That’s the subject of Today’s +1.
 
Have you ever seen this quote from Abigail? 
 
“These are the times in which a genius would wish to live. It is not in the still calm of life, or the repose of a pacific station, that great characters are formed. The habits of a vigorous mind are formed in contending with difficulties. Great necessities call out great virtues. When a mind is raised, and animated by scenes that engage the heart, then those qualities which would otherwise lay dormant, wake into life and form the character of the hero and the statesman.”
 
After reading a version of that in Warren Bennis’ great book On Becoming a Leader, I looked it up to find its source. 
 
It’s from a letter she wrote to her son John Quincy Adams in January 1780–almost 243 (!) years ago. He was on a trip to France with his father to elicit support for our Revolutionary War. (Thanks, France!! flag: France)
 
I looked up how old John Quincy Adams was in 1780. 
 
He was 12. 
 
Check out the letter. It’s worth reading. 
 
I printed it out and marked it all up because it was so good. (See my notes below.)
 
As you’ll see if you spend a few minutes reading her brilliant letter, Abigail starts out the letter by basically telling her son that she made him go to France with his dad and brother even though he was whining about it. face with tears of joy 
 
Seriously. It’s so good to see this great woman (a true Founding Mother of America) talking to a future president like, well, he was acting like a 12-year-old. nerd face 
 
Then we get to the quote that made me find the letter. 
 
But get this…
 
Bennis actually MISQUOTED Abigail. 
 
He said that she said: “These are hard times in which a genius should wish to live. . . . Great necessities call forth great leaders.”
 
But that’s not *actually* what she said. 
 
She didn't say great necessities call forth great LEADERS. 
 
She said: Great necessities call forth great VIRTUES.” 
 
Which, for the record, MAKES THEM GREAT LEADERS. 
 
Note: Both John AND his dad would become future U.S. Presidents. Virtue for the win!
 
Now…
 
Of course, that struck me (goosebumps) because our ENTIRE app is architected to help us operationalize the fact that ancient wisdom and modern science agree that the ultimate purpose of life is to express the best version of yourself (in service to something bigger than yourself!) by living with virtue. 
 
And, of course, we believe the historically significant challenges we are facing DEMAND that each of us step up and show up as the best, most Heroic versions of ourselves. 
 
Which is why I was even more struck by the rest of her letter. 
 
When I read THIS passage, I could literally SEE Abigail and her husband John (who, in 1780, was the Ambassador to France in what was the fifth of an eight-year Revolutionary War!) and their kids using Heroic to commit to and then hit virtuous targets together all day every day (especially when they were so far away from each other!):
 
“I cannot fulfill the whole of my duty towards you, if I close this Letter, without reminding you of a failing which calls for a strict attention and watchfull care to correct. You must do it for yourself. You must curb that impetuosity of temper, for which I have frequently chid you, but which properly directed may be productive of great good. I know you are capable of these exertions, with pleasure I observed my advice was not lost upon you. If you indulge yourself in the practise of any foible or vice in youth, it will gain strength with your years and become your conquerer.
 
The strict and inviolable regard you have ever paid to truth, gives me pleasing hopes that you will not swerve from her dictates, but add justice, fortitude, and every Manly Virtue which can adorn a good citizen, do Honour to your Country, and render your parents supremely happy, particularly your ever affectionate Mother,”
 
Then I smiled when I realized that another beloved Founding Father, Benjamin Franklin, would have probably created something similar to our app to track HIS virtues (with his friends and family!) if he was alive today. 
 
Know this…
 
These are times in which Heroes would wish to live. 
 
As we set out to make 2023 truly Heroic, may we remember that it is not in the still calm of life, or the repose of a pacific station that great characters are formed. 
 
Remember: “Great necessities call out great virtues. When a mind is raised, and animated by scenes that engulf the Heart, then those qualities which would otherwise lay dormant, wake to Life, and form the Character of the Hero and the Statesman.”
 
With Love + Wisdom + Self-Mastery + Courage and profound Gratitude for all of your support in helping us create a noble and virtuous world, I say…
 
Heroes unite!!!
 
Day 1. All in.
 
LET’S GO.
Nov 13, 2022

Which Will It Be, Hero?

As we’ve discussed, Brian Cain is an inspiring human being.
 
He works with some of the greatest athletes in the world and has helped them go to the next (NEXT!) level.
 
We’ve talked about a bunch of Big Ideas from his two little fables: The 10 Pillars of Mental Performance Mastery and One Percent Better.
 
Today we’re going to revisit One Percent Better for ONE more wisdom gem.
 
But…
 
First…
 
Pop quiz!!!
 
Question: What’s 1% of a day? 
 
Do you recall?
 
(And do you recall that trying to recall something is one of the most powerful ways to dominate Learning 101? Yep.)
 
Answer: 1% of the day is 14 minutes and 24 seconds.
 
Note: I’ve changed the countdown on my Timex watch from 16 minutes and 40 seconds (which is 1,000 seconds) to 14 minutes and 24 seconds (1% of the day!!) so I can measure my meditation and deep work time blocks and, well, a bunch of stuff in 1% increments. Super fun. We’ll come back to that more as we have fun seeing if we can make at least 51% (!!!) of our days Heroically intentional.
 
For now…
 
Here’s the wisdom gem I want to focus on…
 
Brian tells us: “If you don’t have a plan, how are you getting better? The problem is when you stop getting better, you start getting bitter, and nobody likes being around people who are bitter all the time.”
 
That’s Today’s +1.
 
Are YOU getting better or are you getting bitter?
 
It’s a simple question with far-reaching impact.
 
Which will it be, Hero?
 
Here’s to continuously refining our plans to GET BETTER lest we go the wrong direction and get bitter.
 
+1. +1. +1.
 
ALL DAY.
 
EVERY DAY.
 
ESPECIALLY TODAY.
Nov 12, 2022

Of Self-Mastery: Reactive + Structural + Expansive

 
I’ve been thinking a lot about the three forms of discipline that make up Self-Mastery.
 
Here they are:
 
Structural Discipline. 
Reactive Discipline. 
Expansive Discipline.
 
We talk about them in Objective V of Basic Training and I’ll be writing about them in the Heroic book we’ll be launching in early 2024.
 
Now…
 
As I sat down to create this +1, I thought this would be the first time I’ve written about the three disciplines. Then, as I was going through the archives, I found that, in fact, we ALREADY chatted about the three disciplines.
 
We chatted about them in +1 #669 to be precise—over two and a half years ago.
 
Perfect.
 
Let’s dust that wisdom off and shine the spotlight of our attention on them again. 
 
Why? 
 
Because they’re SUPER important.
 
First…
 
A little more context.
 
As we’ve discussed many times, Phil Stutz is all about helping us cultivate what he calls “emotional stamina.” 
 
How? 
 
By getting to a place where, the WORSE we feel, the MORE committed we are to our protocol.
 
That’s become the foundation of what I now call “Antifragile Confidence.” 
 
KNOW THIS: Getting this ONE idea may, in fact, be THE most life-changing thing we can do together.
 
What if…
 
When we feel like this little poop emoji (pile of poo!!) (face with tears of joy!), rather than spiral out and (let’s be honest folks! nerd face), do all the stupid things we tend to do when we’re tired and overwhelmed and all that, we could get ourselves to be even MORE INTENSELY focused on doing what we know is best for us?!
 
What would happen?
 
Simple. 
 
Easier said than done but… 
 
If you can actually get yourself to do that even 10 or 20 or 30% of the time and then spiral up from there…
 
Then…
 
You’d change your life. 
 
Fundamentally and permanently.
 
Now… 
 
That’s the essence of the first of three disciplines: Structural Discipline
 
It’s also why we spent so much time and money working with one of the best product development companies in the world to create the core experience of our Heroic app: the Big 3 Target Practice protocol.
 
Who are you at your absolute best? What virtues do you embody? What do you actually DO on a daily basis?
 
When we have structural discipline, we DOMINATE that protocol. We recommit to being our best selves in the morning. Then we hit virtuous targets all day. Every day. Soul Force score at 101. LET’S GO.
 
I repeat: GOOD LUCK having a series of really bad days when you do that. Your highs will be higher AND your lows will be higher and you will have earned the trust in yourself to KNOW that you can handle WHATEVER life throws at you.
 
That’s how you forge antifragile confidence by executing your protocol via Structural Discipline.
 
The second discipline is “Reactive Discipline.”
 
As I said in the old +1, Reactive Discipline is just what it sounds like. 
 
Something triggers you. Can you step in between the stimulus and your normal sub-optimal response with the DISCIPLINE to CHOOSE a better response? Fantastic. That’s Reactive Discipline.
 
Then we have Expansive Discipline
 
This is both the most important and the hardest of the three. 
 
EVERY SINGLE MOMENT we have a choice. 
 
Will we step forward into growth or back into safety? 
 
If we want to live our most heroically awesome lives and have a shot at experiencing all that we’re capable of being, when we feel even a little niggle of fear, we must (more and more!) consistently choose to EXPAND. EXPAND. EXPAND. We need to make that expansion a discipline.
 
How? “Bring in on!!” is a FANTASTIC tool to practice.
 
That’s Today’s +1.
 
The Three Disciplines of Self-Mastery.
 
Structural Discipline. 
Reactive Discipline. 
Expansive Discipline.
 
How are YOU doing with each?
 
What’s awesome? What needs work? What ONE thing can you do a little differently Today?
 
Here’s to your disciplines.
 
All three of them!
 
Day 1. All in. 
 
LET’S GO!
Nov 11, 2022

Personal Humility + Indomitable Will 

 
Jim Collins is my all-time favorite business thinker.
 
He’s written a bunch of great books including Good to Great, Built to Last, and Great by Choice.
 
But…
 
My all-time favorite business book is Beyond Entrepreneurship 2.0: Turning Your Business into an Enduring Great Company. (Thanks again for the rec on that, Gibson. folded hands )
 
I still need to do a Note on all those books and create a series of Notes for all the business books I’ve read but have yet to distill.
 
For now…
 
I want to talk about one of Jim Collins’ Big Ideas on what he calls “Level 5 leadership.”
 
Here’s how he puts it: “Our research showed that having charismatic leadership doesn’t explain why some companies become great and others don’t. In fact, some of the most disastrous comparison cases had very strong, charismatic leadership in the very era that the companies fell or failed. Rather, our research found that the critical ingredient is Level 5 leadership. The essence of Level 5 leadership is a paradoxical combination of personal humility and indomitable will. The humility expressed at Level 5 isn’t a false humbleness; it’s a subjugation of personal ego in service to a cause beyond oneself. This humility combined with the fierce resolve to do whatever it takes (no matter how difficult) to best serve that cause. Level 5 leaders are incredibly ambitious, but they channel their ambition into building a great team or organization and accomplishing a shared mission that’s ultimately not about them.
 
First: “Personal humility.”
 
We subjugate our personal egos in service to something bigger than ourselves.
 
Second: “Indomitable will.”
 
As in… 
 
INDOMITABLE will. (Wow.)
 
We have a fierce resolve to do WHATEVER it takes (no matter how difficult!) to best serve the cause.
 
(Goosebumps.)
 
Combine personal humility and indomitable will and we have what Collins calls “Level 5 leadership.”
 
Only… 
 
You know what I thought of when I read that passage?
 
I thought…
 
If, as Joseph Campbell says: “A hero is someone who has dedicated his or her life to something bigger than oneself”…
 
Then…
 
I say…
 
Jim Collins just described HEROIC Leadership.
 
And…
 
That’s Today’s +1.
 
Let’s fiercely resolve to stepping up and into our Heroic Leadership potential—combining personal humility with INDOMITABLE (!) will to do whatever it takes for however long it takes to fulfill our Missions.
 
And…
 
Let’s do that…
 
TODAY.
 
Day 1. All in.
 
LET’S GO.
 
P.S. Check out this +1 on (Heroically!) Fierce Ambition for another take on the subject, inspired by Doris Kearns Goodwin and her brilliant book Leadership in Turbulent Times.
Nov 10, 2022

I Read Archeologically (Like Twyla Tharp)

 
A couple +1s ago, I promised to tell you more about how I read a book.
 
Here’s the very short answer…
 
I read like it’s my job to find Big Ideas that can help me activate my Soul Force so I can help YOU activate YOUR Soul Force. 
 
For one simple reason. It is. 
 
Now…
 
Let’s go to one of my favorite books for a passage that best captures how I read.
 
In The Creative Habit, Twyla Tharp tells us: “When I’m reading archeologically, I’m not reading for pleasure. I read the way I scratch for an idea, digging down deep so I can get something out of it and use it in my work. I read transactionally: How can I use this? It’s not enough for me to read a book. I have to ‘own’ it. I scribble in the margins. I circle sentences I like and connect them with arrows to other useful sentences. I draw stars and exclamation points on every good page, to the point where the book is almost unreadable. By writing all over the pages, I transform the author’s work into my book—and mine alone.”
 
Yep. That’s exactly how to do it.
 
Carrying on…
 
Here are some other things you might find interesting in terms of how I read a book and how I encourage you to consider approaching it.
 
First, very importantly: I DO NOT speed read. 
 
I read reasonably quickly—40-50 or so pages an hour depending on the font size and complexity of the subject and all that.
 
But… Again…
 
I DO NOT “speed read.”
 
Nor do I try to see how fast I can get through the book per se.
 
I treat reading a book like it’s my job to mine its depths for the Big Ideas that can change YOUR life as I strive to give you More Wisdom in Less Time via the PhilosophersNotes and these +1s because, again, it is.
 
I also, even more importantly and less obviously, read a book like I’m lucky enough to sit down and have a GREAT conversation with a BRILLIANT thinker who spent years (if not decades!) reflecting on the subject of their book and then spent another big chunk of time distilling that wisdom into a book they could share with us. 
 
Why in the world would I rush through THAT?
 
Nope.
 
I sit up straight. Pen in hand as I GET TO WORK searching for the Ideas that could change our lives.
 
I’ll also say that, many years ago, I was interviewing Tony Schwartz about his great book The Power of Full Engagement. He told me that, at the time, he found his brain so full with digital inputs that he had a hard time sitting down and reading more than a page of a book. And, it was at that moment that he knew he needed to significantly reduce his consumption of digital inputs.
 
Which is a REALLY important point.
 
If you want to be able to FOCUS your mind on a book (or ANYTHING that is important) for longer than 20 seconds, you need to, in my opinion, start by Conquering Your Digital Addiction and practicing your Digital Minimalism.
 
A good night of sleep and meditation practice helps as well. nerd face 
 
And…
 
That’s a little more on how I read a book and that’s Today’s +1.
 
Let’s bring Twyla Tharp back so she can send us on our way.
 
She tells us: “If I stopped reading, I’d stop thinking. It’s that simple.”
 
Yep. 
 
Books. They do a Hero good.
 
Here’s to soaking our minds in the wisdom of great thinkers.
 
And…
 
Here’s to taking that wisdom and going from Theory to Practice to Mastery Together… 
 
TODAY.
 
+open book +open book +open book 
Nov 9, 2022

Do a Gritty, Flourishing Hero Good!

 
In our last +1, we talked about how I read a book.
 
More specifically, we focused on how I choose the books I read—which, I believe, is ALWAYS the most important first step in how to read a book.
 
In short, I said that I follow Joseph Campbell’s wisdom to read the right books by the right people.
 
Campbell tells us: When you find an author who really grabs you, read everything he has done. Don’t say, ‘Oh, I want to know what So-and-so did’—and don’t bother at all with the best-seller list. Just read what this one author has to give you. And then you can go read what he had read. And the world opens up in a way that is consistent with a certain point of view. But when you go from one author to another, you may be able to tell us the date when each wrote such and such a poem—but he hasn’t said anything to you.”
 
Scientists would agree with this approach of trusting yourself and doing what really grabs you—with books and with other things in life. 
 
In fact, Tal Ben-Shahar connects the academic research on what’s called “self-concordant goals” to Joseph Campbell to make the point.
 
Here’s how Tal puts it in his great book Happier: As research on self-concordant goals illustrates, Campbell’s belief is much more than a superstition. When we follow our bliss, we not only enjoy the journey, we are also more successful.”
 
In the book, Tal walks us through the importance of goals in general and the importance of what psychologists call “self-concordant” goals in particular.
 
“Self-concordant goals” are “the goals we pursue out of deep personal conviction and/or a strong interest.”
 
As it turns out, Angela Duckworth echoes this wisdom in HER great book, Grit.
 
We talk about the four practices to build grit in this +1 on The Science of Grit.
 
Here they are: Interest + Practice + Purpose + Hope.
 
The first, MOST IMPORTANT aspect of Grit?
 
Interest.
 
If we want to cultivate the sustainable passion required to cultivate grit (whether that’s for important, long-term goals or simply getting through a book!), we need to be intrinsically drawn to what we do. It needs to be, as we just discussed, SELF-CONCORDANT.
 
All of which leads us to Today’s +1.
 
How are your goals?
 
Are they clear? Are they self-concordant? 
 
Do they fire you up?
 
Let’s not read books or do other such things because we think we “should.” 
 
As Tony Robbins would say: Let’s not should on ourselves.” And, As Rory Vaden puts it, let’s not be should-heads.” nerd face 
 
Let’s do the things that grab us.
 
With gritty joy.
 
TODAY.
Nov 8, 2022

And… How I Pick the Books I Read

 
I’m often asked how I read a book AND how I pick the books I read.
 
In fact, I was asked this question in one of our recent Heroic Coach Soul Force Forge sessions in which I have 1-on-1 coaching sessions with our Coaches in a group environment. (These sessions are among the highlights of my month!) 
 
Today I’d like to chat about that for a moment or three.
 
So…
 
In a recent Zoom, I had an opportunity to connect with Franco—an incredibly inspiring 19-year-old Argentinian Heroic optimizer who is going through our Coach certification program. 
 
Franco told me that he was getting an ARETÉ tattoo for his 20th birthday (exploding head!!) and then asked me how I read a book. 
 
I kinda went off. 
 
Here’s the video clip of our time together. 
 
And, here’s the short story…
 
The most important part of how to read a book, from my perspective, is to make sure you’re reading THE RIGHT BOOK.
 
If you’re reading a book because you think you “have to” or because everyone else is reading it but… You’re not THAT into it, then… Well… Good luck with that. It’s going to be a bit of a slog and you may find your self x pages into another book but never finishing it.
 
Of course, sometimes we need to read a book for school or for our jobs or whatever—in which case, we’d be wise to remove all ambivalence and GO ALL IN and act like that book you need to read is the most exciting book you could ever possibly read. (Seriously.)
 
Assuming we’re talking about a situation in which our reading list is not assigned to us, the first thing I do is follow Joseph Campbell’s wisdom.
 
In The Power of Myth, he tells us: Sit in a room and read—and read and read. And read the right books by the right people. Your mind is brought onto that level, and you have a nice, mild, slow-burning rapture all the time. This realization of life can be a constant realization in your living. When you find an author who really grabs you, read everything he has done. Don’t say, ‘Oh, I want to know what So-and-so did’—and don’t bother at all with the best-seller list. Just read what this one author has to give you. And then you can go read what he had read. And the world opens up in a way that is consistent with a certain point of view. But when you go from one author to another, you may be able to tell us the date when each wrote such and such a poem—but he hasn’t said anything to you.”
 
Yep. 
 
That’s the way to do it.
 
And, that’s what I’ve done for the better part of the last 15-20 years now.
 
In my 20s and early 30s, I started with Dan Millman. And Paulo Coelho. And Wayne Dyer. I’ve read nearly everything those guys have written. (Check out the Notes by clicking on the link for each author.)
 
More recently, I’ve read almost everything written by Steven Pressfield, Ryan Holiday, and Cal Newport.
 
Then there’s my old coach Steve Chandler and my beloved Yoda Phil Stutz.
 
Then there’s Joseph Campbell himself. And one of my all-time favorite teachers, Eknath Easwaran—who I consider to be, in many ways, the Indian version of Campbell. In fact, I’ve created the MOST Notes on Easwaran and his great books. Nine of them so far. His translations of the Gita and Dhammapada in particular are exploding head!
 
Most recently, I followed this thread with Michael Singer.
 
Not too long ago, I read his latest book called Living Untethered. It’s INCREDIBLY good. 
 
We previously featured The Untethered Soul, which I really liked, but after reading his latest book, Singer is now one of my new favorite teachers. 
 
So…
 
After finishing that book, I immediately got three other books he’s written—including a couple he wrote nearly 50 years ago. 
 
In one of THOSE books he thanked Yogananda for being the deepest influence of his life. 
 
So what did I do?
 
I immediately got HIS classic An Autobiography of a Yogi
 
Then I learned that Steve Jobs gave An Autobiography of a Yogi to everyone who attended his memorial service as THE final gift on their way out. (Goosebumps)
 
Then I went back to Amazon and bought a half dozen more of Yogananda’s books (/booklets) all of which are exploding head!!
 
Notes on all those coming soon. 
 
All that to say…
 
That’s one powerful way I pick the books I’m going to read—which is, again, in my mind, one of the most important things to consider in terms of how to read a book.
 
In our next +1, I’ll tell you more about how I actually read the book once I’ve decided to read it.
 
For now…
 
Happy reading.
 
Here’s to that nice, mild, slow-burning rapture we get connecting with wisdom from a brilliant soul.
 
Day 1. All in. 
 
Let’s go!
 
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Nov 7, 2022

The Place to Live to Dominate the Day

 
In our last +1, Dale Carnegie joined us to complement some Brian Cain wisdom about the importance of focusing on THIS moment (RIGHT NOW!) to crowd out any potential stress about the past or the future that might be eliciting some feelings of depression or anxiety.
 
As you may recall, and, don’t worry! I promise that I will continue to unapologetically repeat all the important themes we discuss to make sure we’re practicing one of the key tenets of Learning 101 known as spaced repetition” … nerd face 
 
Here’s how Cainer put it: “Remember, depression is obsession with the past, anxiety is obsession about the future, and optimal performance is obsession about the present.”
 
And…
 
Here’s how Carnegie put it: “George Bernard Shaw was right. He summed it all up when he said: ‘The secret of being miserable is to have the leisure to bother about whether you are happy or not.’ So don’t bother to think about it! Spit on your hands and get busy. Your blood will start circulating; your mind will start ticking—and pretty soon this whole positive upsurge of life in your body will drive worry from your mind. Get busy. Keep busy. It’s the cheapest kind of medicine there is on this earth—and one of the best.”
 
Now…
 
I ended that +1 with one of my go-to lines, encouraging you to consider putting this wisdom into practice “All day, every day. Especially… TODAY!”
 
Which makes me think of ANOTHER Big Idea from Carnegie’s How to Stop Worrying and Start Living
 
He tells: “So let’s be content to live the only time we can possibly live: from now until bedtime. ‘Anyone can carry his burden, however hard, from now until nightfall,’ wrote Robert Louis Stevenson. ‘Anyone can do his work, however hard, for one day. Anyone can live sweetly, patiently, lovingly, purely, till the sun goes down. And this is all that life really means.’"
 
And…
 
Carnegie encourages us to consider living in what he calls “Day-tight compartments.” 
 
He tells us: “Shut the iron doors on the past and the future. Live in Day-tight compartments.” 
 
Then…
 
He tells us to ask ourselves THESE questions:
 
  1. “Do I tend to put off living in the present in order to worry about the future, or to yearn for some ‘magical rose garden over the horizon’?
  2. Do I sometimes embitter the present by regretting things that happened in the past—that are over and done with?
  3. Do I get up in the morning determined to ‘Seize the day’—to get the utmost out of these twenty-four hours?
  4. Can I get more out of life by ‘living in day-tight compartments’?
  5. When shall I start to do this? Next week? ... Tomorrow? ... Today?”
 
Those are some GREAT questions.
 
And…
 
Reflecting on those is the focus of Today’s +1.
 
Let’s spend a moment doing so now…
 
  1. “Do you tend to put off living in the present in order to worry about the future, or to yearn for some ‘magical rose garden over the horizon’?
  2. Do you sometimes embitter the present by regretting things that happened in the past—that are over and done with?
  3. Do you get up in the morning determined to ‘Seize the day’—to get the utmost out of these twenty-four hours?
  4. Can you get more out of life by ‘living in day-tight compartments’?
  5. When shall you start to do this? Next week? ... Tomorrow? ... Today?”
 
Your answers?
 
btw…
 
Hint: The answer to #5 is…
 
You should start to do this… TODAY! nerd face 
 
Yep. Today’s the day to move from Theory to Practice to Mastery, Hero.
 
But only always.
 
Day 1. All in. 
 
Here’s to living in day-tight compartments.
 
LET’S GO!
Nov 6, 2022

And Its Antidote (Found in Spit!)

 
In our last +1, we spent a little more time with Brian Cain and his wisdom on the fact that depression is obsession with the past, anxiety is obsession about the future, and optimal performance is obsession about the present.” 
 
All of which begged the question: What are YOU obsessed about these days? 
 
And…
 
All of that led to my admonition to activate our Soul Force by getting our Energy to Heroic levels and Focusing it on What’s Important NOW all day every day. 
 
Today I want to revisit the topic and bring another peak performance guru to the party to share HIS wisdom on the subject.
 
We’ll go old school and invite Dale Carnegie to join us.
 
As you almost certainly know, Carnegie wrote one of the all-time best-selling personal development books How to Win Friends and Influence People. He wrote that book in 1936. It’s sold over 30 million copies. (Check out the Notes for more.)
 
What you may not know is that he wrote another great book called How to Stop Worrying and Start Living. That book was written in 1948. 6 million copies of that book have been sold as well. (Check out the Notes for more.)
 
In How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, Carnegie echoes Cainer’s wisdom about focusing on the PRESENT to deal with any potential depression and anxiety.
 
He tells us: “George Bernard Shaw was right. He summed it all up when he said: ‘The secret of being miserable is to have the leisure to bother about whether you are happy or not.’ So don’t bother to think about it! Spit on your hands and get busy. Your blood will start circulating; your mind will start ticking—and pretty soon this whole positive upsurge of life in your body will drive worry from your mind. Get busy. Keep busy. It’s the cheapest kind of medicine there is on this earth—and one of the best.”
 
There ya go.
 
Feeling stressed?
 
Perfect.
 
That’s part of a good, noble life. 
 
The moment you quit thinking you should be exonerated from the pain of uncertainty and the pain of hard work will be one of the most powerful, antifragile confidence-building moments of your life!
 
Now…
 
Spit on your hands and get busy doing your best at whatever is in front of you.
 
RIGHT. NOW.
 
Gremlins come back to the party a minute or three later?
 
Perfect. 
 
Repeat.
 
Get back to work.
 
Focusing your Energy on What’s Important Now.
 
Not once in a while and not only when you feel like it.
 
All day, every day.
 
Especially when?
 
TODAY.
Nov 5, 2022

Past? Future? Present? = Depression, Anxiety, Optimal Performance 

 
Not too long ago, we spent some time with my friend Brian Cain—who happens to be, in my opinion, at least tied for first as THE world’s best mental toughness coach.
 
One particular line from his 10 Pillars of Mental Performance Mastery has been popping up in my brain and I want to make sure we take a moment to chat about it.
 
Here it is.
 
Brian tells us (via Coach Kenny in his fable): “Remember, depression is obsession with the past, anxiety is obsession about the future, and optimal performance is obsession about the present.”
 
Let’s think about that for a moment…
 
Depression is obsession about the PAST. 
 
Anxiety is obsession about the FUTURE.
 
Optimal performance? That requires an obsession with the PRESENT.
 
Of course, that’s a deliberately hyperbolic oversimplification of depression and anxiety. 
 
And…
 
It’s a powerful perspective. 
 
All of which begs the question: What are YOU obsessed about these days? 
 
I repeat: “Remember, depression is obsession with the past, anxiety is obsession about the future, and optimal performance is obsession about the present.”
 
Here’s to activating our Soul Force by getting our Energy to Heroic levels and Focusing it on What’s Important NOW all day every day. 
 
Especially, as always, TODAY.
 
Anxiety and depression BEGONE.
 
Optimal performance LET’S GO!!
Nov 4, 2022

We Love You… Let’s GO!

 
In our last +1, we talked about the fact that I’m hitting 101 Heroic Targets a day so I can keep my daimon in play.
 
You try it yet? nerd face 
 
Of course, as I’ve said many times, you don’t need to be quite as crazy and ALL IN as I am to get the benefits of using the Heroic app. 
 
Early research shows that hitting as few as THREE Heroic Targets a day can boost your Energy 40%, your Productivity 20% and your Connection 15%—all in a few minutes on the app per day.
 
Why does the Heroic app work so powerfully?
 
Because there’s E X T R A O R D I N A R Y power in living our lives with a clear intention and shining the spotlight of our attention on the things that matter most. Then, of course, DOING the things that are in integrity with that vision of our best selves. 
 
Not once in a while but EVERY.SINGLE.DAY.
 
Now…
 
One of the Heroic Energy Targets I commit to every morning these days is: 
 
“Cold Plunge (2:43 after 30)”
 
That’s short-hand for: Get in the cold plunge for 2 minutes and 43 seconds after your 30 minute AM workout. ice cube cold face 
 
Why 2:43? 
 
Because we love you.
 
I actually do that twice a day—once after my AM workout and the second time an hour or two before I go to bed.
 
Why 2:43 x 2? 
 
Because 2 x 2 min and 43 seconds is about 5.51 minutes and, well, everything I do is tied back to my purpose of helping create a world in which 51% of humanity is flourishing by the year 2051. 
 
Now…
 
On to the point of Today’s +1.
 
I came up with a little 2 minute and 43 second Heroic meditation that I do every time I hop in the cold plunge. 
 
It goes like this.
 
First, I take a deep breath before I get in to the cold plunge. In through the nose, down into the belly, back out through the nose—exhale slightly longer than the inhale… Optimal Breathing 101 style. You know the drill. 
 
Before we go further…
 
To be VERY clear, I never really want to hop in the cold. Getting in 51-57 degree water is never a particularly pleasant experience. But, I do it because a) I like building the habit of doing things I don’t like to do and b) I know the benefits of cold are extraordinary (see Notes on The Wim Hof Method!) so I move through my resistance and get in.
 
I do a little 5-4-3-2-1! countdown and… I’M IN. ice cube cold face 
 
Then…
 
My 2:43 Heroic Meditation begins.
 
I start by saying each virtue.
 
Wisdom. Self-Mastery. Love. Courage. Gratitude. Hope. Curiosity. Zest.
 
Then I say an affirmation for each virtue.
 
I am Wise. 
I am Disciplined. 
I am Loving. 
I am Courageous. 
I am Grateful. 
I am Hopeful. 
I am Curious. 
I am Zesty.
 
Then I say the declaration for each virtue.
 
I know the game I’m playing and how to play it well.
I have structural, reactive, and expansive discipline.
I am connected, joyful, and encouraging.
I am willing to act in the presence of fear.
I appreciate all the blessings and gifts in my life.
I have an inspiring target, agency, and pathways.
I pay attention to what’s working and what needs work.
I dominate my fundamentals so I have Heroic Energy.
 
Then I repeat each virtue.
 
Wisdom. Self-Mastery. Love. Courage. Gratitude. Hope. Curiosity. Zest.
 
Then I think of my tattoos as I remind myself of our ultimate mission: “Hero, I see a world in which 51% of humanity is flourishing by 2051. My Soul Force is at 101 and I’m helping 1 million people get THEIR Soul Force to 101 so we can change the world together.”
 
Then I say to myself: “All in. Let’s go!!!”
 
Then I get out of the cold, dry off and get back to dominating my day.
 
That’s a 2 minute, 43 second version of a Heroic meditation.
 
All in. Day 1. Let’s go!
Nov 3, 2022

It’s Hard to Have a Bad Day When I Hit These (Yours?)

 
Every day I hit 101 Targets in the Heroic App.
 
As I joke with our team and with some friends, “101 Targets a day keeps the daimon in play!”
 
I can assure you that it’s *really* hard to have a *really* bad day when you start your day recommitting to being your best self in your Energy, Work, and Love and then do 101 things you KNOW help you stay plugged in.
 
But…
 
Don’t take my word for it. 
 
Test it! nerd face 
 
Now…
 
I recommit to over 30 Heroic Energy Targets every morning. I’ve basically breadcrumbed my day with what I KNOW I do when I’m at my best so I can make that prior best my new baseline
 
My #1 Energy Target?
 
“In Bed for 9-10 Hours” 
 
backhand index pointing up I haven’t missed that ONCE since we launched the app. Sleep is a sport for me and THAT (process!) Target is the #1 reason why my (outcome Target!) average Oura Sleep Score has been 90+ every month for nearly 2 years. 
 
For curious souls, my current Heroic Energy Top 3 includes:
 
I. In Bed for 9-10 Hours
II. AM Meditation (1%)
III. Movement (30 Min)
 
Just hitting THOSE three Targets would be enough to keep me feeling pretty darn Zesty and provide bumper rails to make sure I never got too off track.
 
But, of course, I’m not trying to keep myself on track, I’m trying to see just how Heroically I can show up and just how much Soul Force I can activate as I strive to help YOU show up with a fully-activated Soul Force of 101!
 
Which is why I also recommit to a Digital Sunset, PM Meditation (1%), my 1 Sun Salutation, 10 Pull-ups, 100 Burpees, 1,000 Meters of Rowing, 10,000 Steps and a couple dozen other targets.
 
But that’s not quite the point of this +1.
 
When I started writing it I planned to share a new 2 minute and 43 second Heroic meditation with you but I’ll save that for our next +1.
 
Today’s +1 is this…
 
What are YOUR Top 3 Heroic Energy Targets?
 
What are the THREE simple things you do when YOU are plugged in and at your most-Heroically-Energized best?
 
Seriously.
 
What are they?
 
REMEMBER!!!
 
(Yes, I’m shouting.)
 
Life doesn’t need to be so hard.
 
We just need to step back from TikTok and the latest must-see Netflix show for a moment or three, get clarity on who we are and what we do when we’re at our best and then… BE THAT best version of ourselves and DO THE THINGS that best version of ourselves does!!
 
As always…
 
Not once in a while and DEFINITELY not only when we feel like it. 
 
Nope…
 
All day, EVERY day ESPECIALLY on those days when we don’t feel like it.
 
THAT, I repeat, is how we develop the antifragile confidence to KNOW that we have what it takes to show up and respond to every challenge life throws at us while we give the world all we’ve got.
 
Of course, we architected the E N T I R E Heroic app to help you move from Theory to Practice to Mastery TODAY but whether you choose to use our tools or some other set of tools, please please please please please take the time to get clear on who you are at your best then recommit to being that version of yourself and doing the things that best version of you does TODAY.
 
We need you at your Heroic best.
 
Day 1. All in.
 
Let’s GO!!!
Nov 2, 2022

In Permanent Ink Somewhere I’ll Never Miss It direct hit 

 
Today I want to chat about how I spent last Father’s Day with the kids.
 
Hint: We went to Blindside Tattoo in Austin, Texas to add some Heroic targets to my forearm in permanent ink. nerd face 
 
Before we go there…
 
As you may recall, in our last +1, we talked about Admiral McRaven’s Hero Code and the virtue of perseverance.
 
He told us about the fact that it was PERSEVERANCE that helped many of our favorite Heroes weather the inevitable storms of their Heroic quests en route to the summit of fulfilling their Missions.
 
I think this is so good that it’s worth repeating: George Washington was defeated on the battlefield more times than he won. Abraham Lincoln lost eight elections before he won the presidency. Thomas Edison failed ten thousand times before inventing the lightbulb. Henry Ford had two failed companies before he found success. J. K. Rowling was destitute before she got the first Harry Potter book published, and Oprah Winfrey had an extremely difficult childhood before finding her way. Martin Luther King once famously said, ‘If you can’t fly, run. If you can’t run, walk. If you can’t walk, crawl. But by all means, keep moving.’”
 
Now…
 
As I read that passage and reflected on the power of perseverance, I also thought about the fantastic ancient Sanskrit word for being a hero in the beginning: arambhashura.
 
As Eknath Easwaran tells us in Conquest of Mind: “In Sanskrit we have a word which means “heroes at the beginning”: people who take up a job with a fanfare of trumpets but soon find that their enthusiasm has tiptoed down the back stair. Those who go far in meditation are the ones who keep on plugging. They may not be very spectacular; they may never hear a trumpet. But they keep on trying day in and day out, giving their best in every situation and relationship, never giving up. Such people are bound to reach their goal.”
 
And…
 
Now, it’s time for that fun trip with the kids Father’s Day trip to Blindside Tattoo with the kids. nerd face 
 
I created my Note on The Hero Code on the Monday after Father’s Day.
 
On Father’s Day, I took Emerson and Eleanor with me to go get a tattoo. (Yes, that’s like me! Hah.)
 
As you know if you’ve been following along, I have ARETÉ” tattooed on my right forearm to remind me to practice my philosophy as I strive to close the always-present gap between who I’m capable of being and who I’m actually being in any given moment.
 
I tattooed “HEROIC” on my left forearm along with the numbers “51 | 2051” to capture the ultimate mission to which I’ve dedicated my life: playing my role as humbly yet heroically well as I can to help create a world in which 51% of humanity is flourishing by 2051.
 
On Father’s Day 2022, the kids and I went on a little adventure to add “101 | 1M” next to the “51 | 2051.” 
 
The “101” represents my commitment to doing everything in my power to get my Soul Force to 101 so I can help YOU get YOUR Soul Force (as measured in the Heroic app!) to 101. 
 
The “1M” represents the first million people I’m committed to doing everything in my power to help get to a Soul Force score of 101 so we can have a shot at that 51 | 2051.
 
As we’ve discussed, science says we increase our odds of achieving our goals by about 42% if we write them down. 
 
So…
 
I figured I’d write my most important goals somewhere I’d never miss them and let them serve as a constant reminder to PERSEVERE (just one step at a time!) through all the inevitable obstacles in a good heroic quest.
 
Every morning I start my meditation by looking at down at my arm and saying to myself, “Hero, I see a world in which 51% of humanity is flourishing by 2051. Let’s get our Soul Force to 101 and help 1M people do the same and we have a shot at fulfilling our mission.
 
101 x 1M → 51 | 2051
 
All in. Day 1. 
 
Here’s to PERSEVERING through the inevitable storms on our Heroic quests as we take JUST ONE MORE STEP…
 
Today.
 
+person walking +woman walking +man walking 
 
snow-capped mountain snow-capped mountain snow-capped mountain 
Nov 1, 2022

Did You Know That George Washington…

 
In our last couple +1s, we chatted about Admiral McRaven’s and Ryan Holiday’s take on Courage.
 
Remember: Courage is calling. All we need to do is take JUST ONE STEP.
 
Today I want to explore some more wisdom from McRaven’s great new book, The Hero Code.
 
As you may recall, The Hero Code has ten virtues: Courage. Humility. Sacrifice. Integrity. Compassion. Perseverance. Duty. Hope. Humor. Forgiveness.
 
Let’s shine a spotlight on the sixth virtue, Perseverance.
 
We’ll invite Admiral McRaven back to the party to share his wisdom on the subject.
 
He tells us: “I believe history will show that success is not just a function of brains or brawn, of talent or intellect, of skill or resourcefulness, but of perseverance. Genius without resolve is just another passing person with a bright idea. Athletic prowess without determination is just another talent wasted. The world is filled with men and women who amounted to nothing because they gave up on their dreams: because they didn’t have the guts, the determination, the willpower to keep going—no matter what. But history is equally replete with heroes who fought through the challenges, persevered, and made a difference.
 
George Washington was defeated on the battlefield more times than he won. Abraham Lincoln lost eight elections before he won the presidency. Thomas Edison failed ten thousand times before inventing the lightbulb. Henry Ford had two failed companies before he found success. J. K. Rowling was destitute before she got the first Harry Potter book published, and Oprah Winfrey had an extremely difficult childhood before finding her way. Martin Luther King once famously said, ‘If you can’t fly, run. If you can’t run, walk. If you can’t walk, crawl. But by all means, keep moving.’”
 
Perseverance.
 
It does a noble Hero good. 
 
That first paragraph reminds me of this classic Calvin Coolidge wisdom: “Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination are omnipotent. The slogan ‘press on’ has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race.”
 
And, although I knew about Lincoln’s failures and J. K. Rowling’s challenges before Harry Potter success (check out our Notes on Leadership in Turbulent Times for more on Lincoln and our collection of Notes on all the Harry Potter books here), I never knew that about George Washington.
 
Isn’t it fascinating to imagine him losing more battles than he won?!
 
Thank you, George, for persevering.
 
(Seriously. Thank you, sir. I don’t take the freedom my country affords me for granted as I know that you fought for SEVEN YEARS to fulfill the Declaration of Independence. folded hands )
 
And…
 
THAT’s Today’s +1.
 
Perseverance.
 
It does a noble Hero good. 
 
Let’s take just ONE more step.
 
Today.
 
+1. +1. +1.
Oct 31, 2022

Answer the Call, Hero!

 
In our last +1, we talked about virtue #1 in Admiral McRaven’s Hero Code.
 
COURAGE.
 
I reminded us of the fact that Aristotle told us that courage is the most important virtue—the one that vitalizes all the other virtues. 
 
Why? 
 
Because…
 
If we don’t have the COURAGE to take action in the presence of fear, then all of our supposed Wisdom and Self-Mastery and Love and Gratitude and Hope and Curiosity and Zest is stuck in Theory-land and is, to put it bluntly, USELESS if we don’t have the courage to put it into practice.
 
Churchill echoed that wisdom when he told us that: “Courage is rightly esteemed the first of human qualities, because it is the quality which guarantees the rest.”
 
Note: Churchill also EMBODIED that Heroic Courage in the face of overwhelming odds and looming catastrophe during World War II. We, arguably, have HIM (and his tenacious (!) courage) to thank most for leading in such turbulent times to help create the world we live in today.
 
And…
 
Today I’d like to talk more about Ryan Holiday’s take on the subject of courage.
 
So…
 
Let’s.
 
As you know if you’ve been following along, Ryan Holiday is one of my all-time favorite writers and thinkers. My respect for him and for his dedication to his craft as a writer and a practicing Stoic grows with each new book of his I read.
 
So far, we’ve covered The Obstacle Is the Way, The Daily Stoic, Ego Is the Enemy, and Stillness Is the Key.
 
They are all fantastic. 
 
As expected, the first book in his new virtue series on THE most essential virtue: Courage Is Calling is ALSO fantastic.
 
The book is packed with practical wisdom on why and HOW to embody Heroic courage.
 
Here’s one passage we can reflect on today…
 
Ryan tells us: “Courage is the management of and triumph over fear. It’s the decision—in a moment of peril, or day in and day out—to take ownership, to assert agency, over a situation, over yourself, over the fate that everyone else has resigned themselves to. We can curse the darkness, or we can light a candle. We can wait for someone else to come and save us, or we can decide to stand and deliver ourselves. Which will it be? Every hero faces this choice. Our discrimen—the critical turning point. The moment of truth. Will you be brave? Will you put yourself out there? What will you reveal your character to be? If cowardice is failure to do your duty, then courage is the decision to step up and do it. Answering the call. Overriding fear and seizing your destiny. Doing the thing you cannot do because it needs to be done . . . with fortitude and spirit, guts and grit, even if you have no idea if you’ll succeed. This will not be easy. But we cannot fear. We must, as Shakespeare said, ‘meet the time as it seeks us.’ Our destiny is here. Let’s seize it.”
 
That’s Today’s +1.
 
Courage is calling.
 
Let’s answer the call.
 
TOGETHER.
 
Today.
Oct 30, 2022

Take JUST ONE STEP Forward Today 

 
In our last +1, we spent some time with one of my heroes, Admiral William H. McRaven as we soaked our souls in wisdom from his newest book: The Hero Code.
 
As you may recall, McRaven’s Hero Code has ten core virtues: Courage. Humility. Sacrifice. Integrity. Compassion. Perseverance. Duty. Hope. Humor. Forgiveness.
 
Today I want to talk about the #1 virtue: COURAGE.
 
Let’s talk about one of THE most powerful ways to operationalize that virtue.
 
Here’s how Admiral McRaven puts it: None of us are immune from life’s pain and disappointment. But if you doubt for even a second that you have the courage necessary to confront the evil in the world or that weakness that resides deep inside all of us—you’re wrong. ...
 
We all have our lines in the sand, those fears that keep us from being courageous. But all you have to do to overcome those fears, those obstacles, those challenges in your life is to take one step forward. Just one. Take one step forward and get on the helicopter. Take one step forward and fight injustice. Take one step forward and challenge the bullies. Take one step forward and face your inner demons. And if you take that one step forward you will find the courage you seek, the courage necessary to overcome your fears and be the hero you long to be.”
 
As we’ve discussed many times, the word courage comes from the same root as heart. Just as the heart pumps blood to your arms and legs and vital organs, courage is the virtue that vitalizes all the other virtues.
 
The best way to cultivate our courage? 
 
Science agrees with McRaven’s approach. 
 
As we discuss in our Notes on The Courage Quotient by Robert Biswas-Diener, we need to be willing to act in the presence of fear. 
 
And, as we discuss in various places we need to APPROACH our challenges rather than AVOID them.
 
And…
 
As McRaven puts it: “all you have to do to overcome those fears, those obstacles, those challenges in your life is to take one step forward.”
 
Now…
 
One of the (many!) reasons I love creating these +1s and the Notes is that I get to go back through my favorite passages and, as I type each word out, really *feel* the intention and the nuance of the author’s wisdom. 
 
As I typed that passage out, I was struck by the way McRaven emphasized Just one.”
 
“We all have our lines in the sand, those fears that keep us from being courageous. But all you have to do to overcome those fears, those obstacles, those challenges in your life is to take one step forward. Just one.
 
When we face the inevitable obstacles and challenges of life and feel the inevitable fears that arise in those situations, all we need to do is take JUST ONE step forward.
 
JUST ONE step forward in that moment when you tend to freeze or to freak out. 
JUST ONE step forward—approaching your challenges rather than avoiding them. 
JUST ONE step forward—saying “Bring it on!” rather than “Make it go away!”
 
That is the essence of courage. 
 
A willingness to act in the presence of fear, to APPROACH rather than avoid our challenges—not once in a while or when you feel like it but more and more consistently all day every day ESPECIALLY when you don’t feel like it—knowing that your infinite, HEROIC potential exists just on the other side of your comfort zone as you cultivate the strength for two and give us all you’ve got.
 
Let’s take JUST ONE step forward today, my beloved Hero.
 
Just one step forward.
 
TOGETHER. (!!!)
 
Today.
 
+1. +1. +1.
Oct 29, 2022

McRaven’s Ten Core Virtues

 
Admiral William H. McRaven is one of my very few living American heroes.
 
We’ve created Notes on three of his great books. 
 
We started with Make Your Bed—a short, brilliant, inspiring manual all about “Little Things That Can Change Your Life... And Maybe the World” that was inspired by the commencement address he gave at the University of Texas at Austin that went viral.
 
Then we featured his autobiography, Sea Stories, which is all about the wisdom he gained from his nearly four decades in special operations.
 
So…
 
When I saw the title to his newest book, I KNEW I had to read it and I KNEW I’d love it.
 
The book? 
 
It’s called The Hero Code.
 
It’s a super-quick reading, incredibly inspiring look at “Lessons Learned from Lives Well Lived” in which Admiral McRaven walks us through the lives of everyday heroes who showed up and gave us all they had. I highly recommend it. (Get a copy here.)
 
McRaven tells us: “I came to realize that there is a hero in all of us. There is an innate code that has been there since the birth of mankind. It is written in our DNA. It is what drove the great expansion of humanity out of Africa. It summoned the explorers to cross the deserts and the seas. It helped create the great faiths. It emboldened the early scientists and philosophers. It nurtured the ill and infirm. It spoke truth to masses. It brought order to chaos and hope to the desperate. This code is not a cipher, or a cryptograph, or a puzzle to be solved. It is a moral code, an internal code of conduct that drives the human race to explore, to nurture, to comfort, to inspire, and to laugh so that societies can flourish.”
 
The Hero Code.
 
Admiral McRaven tells us that it is a moral code and, in the book, walks us through ten of the core virtues that make up the code as he shares the story of an everyday hero who embodied that particular virtue.
 
Each virtue has its own commitment. 
 
Here they are.
 
I will always strive to be COURAGEOUS; to take one step forward as I confront my fears.
 
I will work to be HUMBLE; to recognize the limits of my intellect, my understanding, and my power.
 
I will learn to SACRIFICE by giving a little of my time, my talent, and my treasure to those in need.
 
I will be a person of INTEGRITY; every decision I make and every action I take will be moral, legal, and ethical.
 
I will be kind and COMPASSIONATE to at least one person every single day and expect nothing in return.
 
I will never give up on matters that are important to me, my family, my country, my faith. I will PERSEVERE.
 
Whatever job I am given, whatever DUTY I am bound by, I will do it to the best of my ability.
 
I will use my unique talents to inspire others and give them HOPE that tomorrow will be a better day.
 
I will use HUMOR to comfort others, and never be afraid to laugh at myself.
 
No matter how great or small the offense against me, I will FORGIVE. I will be the victor, not the victim.”
 
To repeat. 
 
The Hero Code has ten core virtues: Courage. Humility. Sacrifice. Integrity. Compassion. Perseverance. Duty. Hope. Humor. Forgiveness.
 
How are YOU doing with each?
 
Anything jump out that might be working really well for you?
 
How about anything that might need a little (or a lot!) of work from you?
 
Here’s to living in integrity with our highest values, Hero.
 
Not someday.
 
But, as always, TODAY.
 
+1. +2. +3. +4. +5. +6. +7. +8. +9. +10. 
Oct 28, 2022

Red Lights? GREEN LIGHTS! 

 
We’ve been having some fun exploring Brian Cain’s wisdom on mental performance mastery.
 
As you know if you’ve been following along, we started by checking in to see if you’ve been punched in the face lately (astonished face), then we broke some arrows with our neck to dominate the Ability + Strategy + GOYA = Results equation, then we did some 1% math (remember: 1% is 14 minutes and 24 seconds of your day and, if you get 1% better every day, you’ll be 998,822,690,009,590 times better in a decade! astonished face ) then we questioned why we’d want to be average, then we raised the basement, and, most recently, we focused our telescopes AND our microscopes on our top goals so we can dominate the day AND the decade.
 
Schew. We’ve been busy!
 
+1% +1% +1% for the win! nerd face 
 
Today I want to wrap up the tour through Brian’s brain with one more Big Idea from 10 Pillars.
 
This one’s on how to flip the switch and go from red lights to green lights.
 
Here’s Brian and the characters from his little fable to bring the wisdom home…
 
“I felt as if I understood the difference between a red-light and green-light state. I wanted to learn how to get into a green-light state and stay there.
 
‘You recognize that if you are in a red-light state or a yellow-light state, you must have a release routine to get you back to green and back in control of yourself. That release routine follows a three-step process,’ Coach Kenny said. ‘You need to have (#1) a physical action that you make with an association that serves as a trigger for releasing the past and moving on to the next play or the next part of your day. You then (#2) take a deep releasing breath that you take while looking at a fixed point we call a focal point to oxygenate your brain and get back in control of yourself. And then you (#3) have a verbal trigger you say that cuts off the past and cements your commitment to the present.’
 
Coach Kenny then stood up, clapped his hands, took a deep breath, wiped his chest down with his hands as if he were wiping dirt off himself and said, “GOOD. What’s important now?’”
 
That’s from a chapter on Pillar #4: Self-Control and Discipline. 
 
It’s kinda like our Flip the Switch” protocol in our Mastery Series.
 
Here’s the quick take…
 
Feeling disconnected from your best self? 
 
PERFECT. 
 
Awareness is *always* the first, most important step. 
 
Now, flip the switch and go from red lights to green lights as you invite the best, most Heroic version of yourself back to the party.
 
Here’s one way to approach it: 
 
#1. Stand up strong. Chest up, chin down. Smile. 
 
#2. Take a deep breath. In through the nose. Down into your belly. Back out through your nose. Exhale slightly longer than your inhale. Ahhhh… 
 
#3. Say to yourself: “Close the Gap. Arete = Heroic. (Or... “What do I want? What’s important now? LET’S GO!” Or... “Calm Confidence. I’ve got this!” Or… Whatever fires YOU up!)
 
Today’s +1?
 
The VERY NEXT TIME you feel a little wobbly today, how about you flip the switch and go from red to green lights and have fun seeing just how fast you can do it?
 
#1. Stand up strong—chest up, chin down. Smile.
#2. Take a deep breath.
#3. Say to yourself: “Arete = Heroic. What’s important now? LET’S GO!”
 
Red lights? 
 
GREEN LIGHTS!
 
LET’S GO!
 
+vertical traffic light +vertical traffic light +vertical traffic light 
 
P.S. Want to see some of Brian’s elite athletes putting this wisdom in PRACTICE to create moments of peak performance? Awesome. Check out these clips!!
Oct 27, 2022

And Heroic Apps to Dominate the Day and Decade

 
Not too long ago, we spent some time with Brian Cain and some of his wisdom from a couple of his little fables: One Percent Better and The 10 Pillars of Mental Performance Mastery.
 
I want to revisit some of his wisdom.
 
Let’s talk about your goals.
 
We’ll invite Cainer back to the party to help us check them out from a couple different perspectives. 
 
In 10 Pillars, he tells us: “Setting big goals is great, but they have to be the right goals or they become traps. Financial goals must be secondary to family goals or you won’t have any family to set goals with. You also need to have telescope and microscope goals. Telescope goals that you can see off into the future, and then you must reverse engineer a process back to your microscope and execute on your microscopic daily goals. Telescope goals are 1, 3, 5+ years into the future and the microscope goals are what you will do in the next 24 hours to move towards your telescope goals. Remember, inch by inch, goal setting is a cinch and yard by yard, it’s hard.”
 
That’s from a chapter on Pillar #2 of Mental Performance Mastery—which is all about our Motivation and Commitment. 
 
Brian tells us (and all great peak performance teachers affirm) that one of the most important things we can do to get (and sustain!) elite levels of motivation is to set clear goals. 
 
And... 
 
I just LOVE the way he helps us do that.
 
So…
 
Let’s bust out our Telescopes AND our Microscopes then the Heroic app and do some work.
 
First, the Telescope.
 
What are your most inspiring 1, 3, and 5+ year goals? 
 
(Seriously. What are they?)
 
If you feel so inspired, let’s do a quick inventory of your, let’s say, 5-year goals in your Big 3: Energy + Work + Love.
 
Remember: If we don’t prioritize our Love alongside our Work we may not have the opportunity to set and celebrate the achievement of our Work goals with the people in our lives who matter most. And... If our Energy isn’t where it needs to be, there’s no way we’ll show up powerfully in either our Work or our Love so... Big 3 for the win!
 
This is my #1 5-Year ENERGY Goal: ___________________________________
 
This is my #1 5-Year WORK Goal: ___________________________________
 
This is my #1 5-Year LOVE Goal: ___________________________________
 
(Nice work! raising hands)
 
Now, it’s time to bust out the Microscope.
 
I’m biased but... 
 
I think one of the easiest ways to get clarity on what you should DO TODAY to be in integrity with the best version of yourself that’s capable of ACHIEVING those goals is simple... Do some Target Practice on the Heroic app as we move from Theory to Practice to Mastery Together TODAY.
 
Step 0. Set up your Big 3 protocol by getting clarity on who you are at your best in your Energy + Work + Love, the virtues that version of you embodies and what, SPECIFICALLY, you will actually DO TODAY to be in integrity with that best version of yourself.
 
Step 1. Commit to being that best version of yourself and doing those things TODAY.
 
Note: As we like to say (and I promise to repeat myself!)… New Year’s Resolutions are nice and warm and fuzzy. New DAY’s Resolutions are where it’s at if you actually want to consistently perform at the highest possible levels.
 
Step 2. Hit your targets. ALL DAY. EVERY DAY. ESPECIALLY TODAY! And even more importantly… commit and hit them on those days when you don’t (insert whiney voice) *feel* like it.
 
Step 3. Repeat. Forever.
 
See your moonshot goals with your Telescope. 
 
See the next steps in your Microscope. 
 
Dominate the day with your Heroic app. 
 
And give us all you’ve got, Hero.
 
TODAY.
Oct 26, 2022

“True Surrender” = “The Art of Acquiescence” 

 
In our last couple +1s, we talked about Michael Singer and his practical wisdom.
 
As we discussed, he has quickly become one of my favorite new teachers. He clearly practices his philosophy and his philosophy is a good one.
 
As I was reading his latest book, I was struck by the parallels of his wisdom and Stoicism. 
 
Although they take different approaches to get there and describe the process in slightly different terms (as is typically the case with universal truths echoed across different cultures and times), they arrive at the same destination.
 
Check this out, for example. 
 
Here’s Michael Singer from Living Untethered: “One of the most amazing things you will ever realize is that the moment in front of you is not bothering you—you are bothering yourself about the moment in front of you.”
 
And…
 
Here’s Marcus Aurelius from his Meditations: “If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself but to your own estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.”
 
The wisest among us learn to have the wisdom and the humility to see the bigger picture and to ACCEPT REALITY. That is what Singer would call “true surrender.”
 
Byron Katie calls it loving what is. Phil Stutz calls it radical acceptance.”
 
The Stoics called it the art of acquiescence” and their ENTIRE philosophy is basically predicated on EXACTLY what Singer is describing. 
 
Whatever you want to call it, let’s PRACTICE IT.
 
Today.
 
+1. +1. +1.
 
LET’S GO!
Oct 25, 2022

Opportunities to Practice

 
In our last +1, we talked about using the WEATHER as a prompt to practice our philosophy.
 
I shared my new favorite temperature which, as you may recall, is WHATEVER THE TEMPERATURE IS RIGHT NOW! (Hah.) (Seriously though! nerd face )
 
I promised we’d chat more about Michael Singer and his idea of practicing “surrendering” to reality by picking some low-hanging fruit.
 
Here’s some of his wisdom on the subject from his great (!) book Living Untethered.
 
He tells us: “The best way to let go of stored pockets of pain is to practice. Just as you practice the scales to learn the piano or practice a sport to get good at it, you practice letting go to learn how to do it. You start with simple things. We call these low-hanging fruit. There are many situations each day when you create inner disturbance for absolutely no good reason. Bothering yourself about the car in front of you does no good at all. It only makes you tense and uptight. The cost-benefit analysis is one-hundred-percent cost and zero benefit. Letting go of that tendency should be easy, but it’s not. You will find that you’re in the habit of insisting and demanding that things should be the way you want, even if it’s irrational. Things are the way they are because of the influences that made them that way. You are not going to change the weather by complaining about it. If you are wise, you will start to change your reactions to reality instead of fighting with reality. By doing so, you will change your relationship with yourself and with everything else.”
 
And, he says: “Start with the small things to prove to yourself that you are capable of doing this. Working with yourself at this level is practicing letting go.”
 
Let’s emphasize three aspects of that passage.
 
First, we’ll talk about the importance of PRACTICE in general. Second, we’ll talk about the fact that wasting our energy on trivial things that are out of our control is a 100% cost 0% benefit outcome. And, third, we’ll talk about the importance of finding little things to use as part of your idiosyncratic practice in particular.
 
Regarding practice in general… 
 
Just this morning, as I was exploring some of the quotes in the Heroic app as I committed to practicing (!) the virtue of Self-Mastery, I read a brilliant gem from Alex Korb’s great book The Upward Spiral—which is all about “Using Neuroscience to Reverse the Course of Depression, One Small Change at a Time.”
 
He tells us: “Ultimately it comes down to the most cliched but scientifically true maxim: practice, practice, practice. To create new, good habits, you have to repeat them over and over again until your brain rewires itself.”
 
And… As I was rowing after my AM1 Deep Work block, I thought of the fact that I needed to connect all this wisdom about practice to Daniel Coyle and his wisdom in his great book The Little Book of Talent.
 
He tells us: “Repetition has a bad reputation. We tend to think of it as dull and uninspiring. But this perception is titanically wrong. Repetition is the single most powerful lever we have to improve skills, because it uses the built-in mechanism for making the wires of our brains faster and more accurate.”
 
PRACTICE. PRACTICE! PRACTICE!!
 
It’s super important.
 
Now let’s shine a spotlight on the fact that, arguing with reality is a 100% LOSING proposition. As Byron Katie says, we lose when we argue with reality. But only EVERY TIME.
 
The cost includes not only our tension and uptightness but the LOST OPPORTUNITY to have alchemized that same trigger into an opportunity to grow. 
 
We missed the chance to turn that -1 into a +1 and then aggregate and compound all those tiny little gains into some MASSIVE change.
 
Add up all those missed opportunities and… That gets expensive FAST!
 
Now let’s shine a spotlight on YOU and your idiosyncratic opportunities to practice.
 
What little things bother YOU?
 
Seriously. 
 
Think of something that a) you have no control over that b) you know you’re wasting your energy getting all worked up about that c) you could use as a new prompt to practice your philosophy.
 
What is it?
 
Got it?
 
Awesome.
 
Let’s stop letting ourselves get annoyed by arguing with reality over insanely trivial things that are OBVIOUSLY totally (!) out of our control.
 
The next time that thing happens, let’s NOTICE how we’re getting all tense and uptight. 
 
And RELAX. 
 
Take a nice, deep breath. 
 
Then go on with your day.
 
You just plucked some low-hanging fruit. 
 
Let’s use that fruit as fuel to strengthen our ability to step in between a stimulus and our old response to choose the most empowered response as we get stronger in preparation for the inevitable bigger challenges life will give us.
 
-1 to +1. -1 to +1. -1 to +1. 
 
All day every day. 
 
Especially TODAY.
Oct 23, 2022

Stoic Negative Visualization Part Deux

Not too long ago, we talked about Happy our Rooster. He wasn’t doing so well then and, I’m sorry to say, he didn’t make it. folded hands 
 
We talked about Happy and his crowing in the context of remembering to practice alchemizing things that might (at least on occasion!) annoy us into reminders of just how precious the little things in life are. 
 
As you may recall, I connected that wisdom to the master class I created for Emerson on Conquering Toilet Paper 101. toilet nerd face 
 
Today I want to continue the conversation and shine a brighter light on the ancient Stoic practice that the modern Stoic William B. Irvine describes as negative visualization.” 
 
Then I’ll tell you how I practiced that when we couldn’t find the kids for a few minutes yesterday. 
 
First…
 
The Stoics. 
 
As we discussed in +1 #851, Stoic philosopher William B. Irvine wrote a great book called A Guide to the Good Life
 
He tells us that the Stoics “recommended that we spend time imagining that we have lost the things we value—that our wife has left us, our car was stolen, or we lost our job. Doing this, the Stoics thought, will make us value our wife, our car, and our job more than we otherwise would. This technique—let us refer to it as negative visualization—was employed by the Stoics at least as far back as Chrysippus. It is, I think, the single most valuable technique in the Stoics’ psychological tool kit.”
 
Now…
 
I pay attention when a guy I respect as much as I respect Professor Irvine tells me that something is THE SINGLE MOST VALUABLE TECHNIQUE practiced in my preferred philosophical tool kit.
 
Which is why I have practiced “negative visualization” since I learned of the technique years ago.
 
And…
 
It’s why I practiced it yesterday.
 
Which leads us to the two Johnson kids.
 
So…
 
As we’ve discussed, we live out in the country outside of Austin. We have a little bit of land and one of the first things we did when we moved in was carve out a little half-mile walking trail. 
 
I absolutely love it and I target swipe hitting the Trail 2-3+ times a day
 
Now…
 
Yesterday afternoon Alexandra came into my office and said she didn’t know where the kids were. They had been jumping around on the trampoline when she came inside for a few minutes and now she didn’t know where they were. 
 
She had looked in the tiny house where her mom lives and they weren’t there. She called for them using our secret loud call and they didn’t respond. 
 
She was more than a little nervous. 
 
So…
 
We split up to see if we could find them. I walked one way on our trail and she took a different path to see if we could find them.
 
As I walked in my direction, I took a deep breath and deliberately allowed myself to imagine the worst possible outcomes to feel the pain of losing our kids. What if they had somehow fallen into our little pond and BOTH of them somehow couldn’t get out? What if someone somehow came onto our property and abducted them or something terrible happened we couldn’t imagine?
 
That was my internal dialogue for about 15-30 seconds. 
 
Then I took another deep breath as I told myself that, however unlikely, those WERE possibilities. And that any number of other tragic things could happen at ANY time to them.
 
Then I reminded myself that I would be wise to keep that wisdom in mind much more often as I shifted from catastrophizing to staying calm and grounded and GRATEFUL to have two beautiful, healthy, happy kids as I turned the corner on our trail.
 
Then who did I see?
 
Two beautiful kids walking toward me—one with his headphones on listening to an audiobook which explained why he didn’t respond to his mom’s call.
 
Safe and sound—oblivious to any potential issues. They knew they had to get some exercise in so they decided to go for a walk. And now they know to let us know when they go on a walk and not to walk with headphones on so they can hear a call.
 
And, well…
 
That’s Today’s +1.
 
If you feel so inspired, consider adding a “negative visualization” practice to YOUR Heroic toolkit. 
 
Let’s remember to not take all those gifts in our lives for granted but AS GRANTED.
 
Not someday. But Today.
 
-1 to +1. 
 
Day 1. Let’s go!
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